Who is Rebecca Summer?
Rebecca Summer works hard to balance her roles as Wife, New Mom, and Executive Assistant. She enjoys spending her time with her family, getting creative in the kitchen, dabbling in graphic design, and continuing to learn how to be a strong, educated woman as a model for her young daughter.
Inspired by how Jesus loved others in both His life and death, Rebecca keeps that in mind as she tries to follow these three principles each day: Be Intentional – Love Everyone – Give Grace
Becca shared that she and her husband Michael learned to compromise earlier on in their relationship when it came to their social calendar. Michael loves spending time at home watching movies but Becca would always fall asleep on the couch. They wanted to be intentional about their date nights and decided to go to the theater as a way to compromise. Learning to meet your partner’s needs happens over time and with a lot of communication. Compromise does not mean you have to make sacrifices as much as it means you are willing to find a middle ground together.
Linguistics expert Deborah Tannen notes that everyone has a unique communication style. When we enter into relationships, those communication styles will inevitably clash. Becca shared that it took her and Michael years to figure out their communicative differences. When it came to making decisions, Becca just needs top-level facts whereas Michael likes to know all the details surrounding the topic and needs to know the why. She learned to make time to communicate the details for Michael and developed compassion for him instead of frustration.
You can’t make everyone happy
Becca learned that she had tendencies to be a people pleaser. She believed she was making Michael happy by being concerned about his Mother’s happiness. Though her intentions were pure, in the end, she was left unhappy and exhausted. Psychologist Jay Earley says people-pleasers are prone to anger when their behavior causes them to lose sight of their own needs We can become so caught up in our partner’s life that we neglect our own well being It is a wonderful thing to be selfless and concerns about meeting the needs of others; however, it’s important to find balance and make the happiness of your marriage the priority.